When People Talk About Others

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When people talk about others, remember that they are just as capable of talking about you. Be careful.

When you notice that people have slipped into the shadows, know that they have not collected their facts. Be careful.

When groups fall off the ledge of your life, know that they have been spreading rumour and gossip. Be mindful.

When people turn their back on you or walk away, instead of towards you with love, let them go. Carefully. Remember: they were never meant to be there for ever anyway, and their thoughts are none of your business.

Go mindfully through life.
Don’t gossip.
Gossip and slander hurts.
And it bites back
Always.
That’s just how the Universe works.

Appreciate those who love you, regardless, unconditionally.
They are the treasure.
Focus on them.
Practise love anyway.
It always wins.
That’s just how the Universe works.

~ Holly ~

 

Being Optimistic – A Quote

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“Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.”

~  Nelson Mandela

 

from his book “Long Walk to Freedom: Autobiography of Nelson Mandela”

 

 

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Keep hope alive,

 

Holly x

Life Is Not Fair

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Life is not fair.

When you are ostracised, judged, criticised, scorned, avoided, circumvented, ignored, mocked, derided, gossiped about, spurned, shunned, snubbed, rebuffed, or even politely side-stepped, despite being honourable, loyal, honest, non-judgemental, clean-living, empathetic, kind, generous, tireless in doing the right thing … it hurts. It hurts more than it hurts those who do none of these, or only some. Why? Because your heart is open and, when your heart is fully open, you open yourself to being vulnerable to both joy and pain. Open is open, there are no half-measures with truth and honesty. What to do about it? Nothing. Only stand. Keep standing. Keep doing what is right. And in the place of standing, love and hug and walk only in the light … Leave all the others to their own devices … and rest in the knowledge that by doing only that which will stand up to scrutiny in a fair court in any land, your rewards will be eternal (as will theirs) and you can always live with yourself.

 

 

 

In truth,

Holly x

 

Friday Thought ~ Break The Chains

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Keep calm and breathe …

 

 

 

Friday Thought

Gratitude, helping others, appreciating the abundance of the planet and doing what you can to tread lightly, sharing out of what you have, opening your mind to the possibilities of making a difference right where you are, trusting in divine providence, minding your own business, refusing to gossip, attending to your own responsibilities, always speaking the truth, being honest in all your dealings, bringing things out from the darkness and into the light, facing difficulties, taking care of your own attitudes, looking after your body, practising compassion, doing the correct things that you expect others to do … all of these and more, help to free the mind from mental chains … and all of these produce good brain health.

Good mind health = good brain health = good body health = good life = peace (regardless of your outward circumstances).

 

‪#‎BreakTheChains

 

Live Free!

 

 

With love,

Holly x

Give Up Concern For Man’s Opinion

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Give up
the concern for Man’s opinion.
Seek only to do what brings excellence
and peace
to your own divine relationship
with your Creator
and your Source
of all …
and all else will follow
calmly and simply and beautifully and well.
Love will follow as you fully love,
and all will take place in the correct way
and at the right time,
even
through the trials.
Perfect freedom
is
the result
of
correct
focus.

 

 

 

 

With love,
Holly x

 

 

 

 

 

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Christians Are Called To Be Spiritual

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Christians
are called
to be spiritual.

We have
God the Father,
God the Son,
and
God the Holy Spirit
living in us.

To ignore the entire ‘body’ of God,
is to ignore who God is,
and is to ignore
what is required of us
as believers in Him.

Christians are called to follow God
in spirit and in wholeness and in truth.

And,
with the New Covenant now firmly in place,
we are to do all
in the Name of Jesus.

God is Love,
God is Light,
God is Spirit,
God is Truth.

Always.

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With love,

Holly x

 

PS. Photographer’s note: the blue dot in the photo is a little quirk of the camera at the moment.  As it catches the light, it adds a touch of ‘magic’, don’t you think?

The poem “IF”, by Rudyard Kipling

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IF

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son.

 

~ by Rudyard Kipling

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Note:
“IF” was written by British Nobel laureate Rudyard Kipling in 1895, and first published in Rewards and Fairies in 1910.

Joseph Rudyard Kipling was a short-story writer, poet, and novelist.
Born 30 December 1865 in Mumbai, India –  died 18 January 1936 in London.

IF … In The Strongest Terms

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IF … In The Strongest Terms

If a man is not prepared to recognise the massive contributions made by his spouse to their combined family, and is not prepared to walk to the ends of the earth to do what is necessary to support her, then that man is not worth his salt and he does not deserve the gem that he has chosen.

If a mother is not prepared to lift a bus for her child, to teach, guide, lead by example, to do whatever is necessary to ‘be there’, to defend, support, and to love, no matter their age, then she is not worth her status as Parent.

If a father is not prepared to go out of his comfort zone to learn to parent himself, in order to parent his child, and to lead by example so that his son or his daughter know firsthand how to begin to care for and fend for themselves, then he does not deserve to be a Father.

If a person is not prepared to put in the hard yards to learn to love him- or herself, is not prepared to stand in front of a mirror and do whatever is necessary to befriend and iron out the chinks in their own armour, then he or she does not have a right to stand before others and preach.

If a human being is not prepared to do whatever it takes to become more human, to allow Life to mould him (or her), to let everything break open in order to be rebuilt, yet stands in judgement over others and calls out their faults, that human is sick and needs to doctor himself.

If we stand in judgement over others, we invite wrath upon ourselves.

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~ Holly Maxwell Boydell

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An Alternative Declaration of Love

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This piece, on ‘dysfunctional’ marriage, was written by me in early February 2015. It was initially entitled “An Outrage”, and is based on close and careful observation, describing a commitment scenario I would not personally encourage, nor willingly condone. The message is a subtle one, interspersed with underlying confronting tones, much like the real-life tapestry of a well-crafted deception that is made to look pristine.

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An Alternative Declaration of Love

“Will you marry me?”

Will you do a job for the rest of your life, which I shall not pay you for?

Will you allow me to own you, and take liberties with your time, your body and your health?

Will you come and be a part of my family and let us pick you apart?

Will you travel to the ends of the earth with me, and deny your friends and family their natural life time with you?

Will you put up with me through my sulks, my foul temper, my tantrums, my body odour and my bad breath?

Will you take on roles that I have been born to, but cannot do myself?

Will you go without, while we feather the nests of others and pander to the needs of those who seek to control us?

Will you take the crumbs that I offer of myself and make them look like something of value?

Will you have sex with me occasionally, and then allow me to go about my life as if we were acquaintances?

When I need to test my own endurance to the hilt, will you stand by my side and cheer me on, while your own world falls apart?

Will you deny yourself simple pleasures, like time with friends and the sense of being part of a tribe, so that I can find my own way?

Will you stand back and say nothing, while I find what I was never taught?

Will you hold me and comfort me when my world falls apart?

Will you put up with all the things that test you to the maximum, so that we can maintain the status quo?

Will you put on a brave face, even when you have gone beyond the point of exhaustion?

Will you learn new skills and be the best person you can be, regardless of the circumstances that I present you with?

Will you promise to obey me, even when my thoughts are skewed and my demands outrageous?

Will you vow to parent our children, until your dying day, even beyond the grave, so that I can focus on myself?

Will you cherish what we have and make it shine, in every area of our lives together, regardless of what each day brings, and no matter what our situation?

Will you hold your head up in the waves of life, and maintain your peace in every circumstance?

Will you maintain your dignity so that others will not think badly of me?

Will you pretend to the world, just as the world pretends to me?

Will you agree with me that there are ‘no perfect marriages’ and be content to stay firmly by my side through thick and thin?

Will you galvanise yourself every single day of every year, even when you’re breaking?

Will you please smile, because I love to see it, even when you’re aching?

Will you allow me to love just one part of you and disregard the rest?

Will you accept what I call love, and be gracious and grateful for it, even if it leaves you empty?

Will you allow me to pull the rug out from beneath you, and then watch how you rebuild?

Will you let me break your knees, and then ask you to dance?

Will you surrender to what is, because ‘no one else had asked you anyway’?

Will you love me when I am too old to wipe my own nose?

Will you love me when I foul my underwear, and be content to wash them for me?

Will you brace yourself for all eventualities and steel yourself to face an unstable future?

Will you walk a rocky path with me, even though you can see a smooth one?

Will you accommodate all of my life and allow me my own adventures, keeping watch over our home while I am away, so that I have somewhere to return to?

Will you make me look successful?

Will you chain yourself mentally, so that I can own you?

Will you play my games of Charades with me?

Will you accept that it is better to be ‘together’ than to be free? …

Will you accept my Declaration of Love?

“Will you marry me?”

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What would Jesus do?

In my quietest moments, and sometimes even in the midst of a current or a raging storm, I wonder to myself “What would Jesus do?”

Over twenty years ago, I sat on a panel in London, speaking to an audience of other Christians who attended the Church I loved to be part of too, and I told them from my heart that I believed we needed to take care of our bodies, our ‘temples of the Holy Spirit’. My voice was a lone one in the room that night. And many times since, amongst similar crowd.

A few years after sitting on the panel in London, I stood on a beautiful property in Australia, longing with all my heart to convert it to organic, and I told the ones whom I was with at the time, whom I also loved, that we believers have to take care of the Earth. I was looked askance at, many a time. Once, when my little daughter ran up to a tree and lovingly hugged it (as she had seen done, I’m sure, on Sesame Street, but the action clearly came straight from her heart), I was looked askance at, as her mother, and my daughter was told that she was a “Tree Hugger”. That was not an endearing term and I was horrified from whence it came. I walked on, and sometimes I think I should have walked away. But I loved more, and I continued on my path.

As time has gone on, the fire has burnt ever brighter inside me and I have faced all sorts of ridicule and opposition to both my faith and my belief in how important it is that we show our love to the Earth. I have not wavered from my path, and nor have the many others who have been on this path too, around the world, because we hear and see the messages, intellectual or otherwise, and the situation is now a critical one.

If Jesus walked into the room right now, I hope he would say I have been a faithful servant, but I don’t know. All I know is that we are now hearing from religious leaders too, about caring for our planet, and I thank heaven that they have heard the message at last. I do not call myself ‘religious’, I have no rituals to my belief and will not allow another to own me ever again, having been burnt too many times, but I have a reverence for God, my father, whom I believe created all of this, and listening to the Holy Spirit is fundamental to my life.

I hope I’m right in saying this: we must take care of our bodies, our temples, and we must take care of the Earth too. The Earth is our home while we live in our physical shapes, and it behoves us all to work towards its longevity and good health. Is that what Jesus would say? Is that what Jesus would do? I don’t know … but Genesis tells me clearly it is exactly what he would want to hear.

And what of the Native American Indians, so in tune with who they are and where they came from? And the other tribes and groups who too remember their connection? I think Jesus would sit well in their midst, and they would all take bread together, in reverence for our spirit and our beautiful Mother Earth.

Our bodies are our ‘temples’, our Earth is our ‘home’. Surely we ought to do the same?
Love them.

Holly x