Swing Low, Sweet Chariot – A Motherhood Memory

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Cooks Hill, NSW, Australia ~ 1993/94

 

“Swing low, sweet chariot …”

This picture … me ‘n my girl … in the garden of the first home that we owned, where we spent many glorious hours in Nature together, had lots and lots of parties and get-togethers, with friends and family frequently coming to stay.

The garden was a ”postage stamp”, whose every inch I knew, into which I poured my love and learnt all sorts about Australia. Gardening became the therapy for a very homesick heart, a heart that missed people in two countries, two continents called “home”, but with that came a grateful connection to the earth and so much that reminded me of my beloved Africa.

In order to be a parent, I had to learn to listen deeply to the rhythms of real soul, such as I had seen in the ways that African people cared for their young … My journey was an otherwise blind one, based only on what I felt to be right, and most of the time I could not see further than my nose in the process. I read LOTS of books.

I called that home “Tintinnare” … which is Latin; it means the ringing of bells. It was and still is, I’m sure, a very special place. We lived there five years, sold it to move to “Rosewood”, when my son, four years younger than his sister, was a year old.

Holly x


[This post was written for another platform originally, hence the brevity of script.]

Test it all against the truth of Love

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While we whinge about aspects of our First World lives, so opulent in so many ways, babies are starving, people are aching for unconditional love, mothers are desperately trying to rise above the humiliation of poverty, business people are seeing the futility of the fast buck when they receive medical shocks … people are sleeping rough on the streets, children are crying and afraid, parents are carrying their children away from war torn conflict, the earth is heaving and groaning in agony as we treat it like a useless machine … Every man has a duty to wake up and examine himself. Every woman has a duty to forgive her peers and show them unconditional love … Every one of us has a duty to work on returning to what really matters and that is not One Upmanship … What really matters is how much we love. Love is an entire subject of its own. Love does not rob, covet, nor harm in any way. Love loves. That’s what brought us each into the world. That’s where we came from. That’s where we might return … To Love. How we live now determines how we’ll be then. Love applies to everything. Test it all against the truth of Love.

~ Holly ~

Teach Our Sons And Daughters

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Let us teach our sons and our daughters what real Love is, with blisters on the soles of its feet.

Let us show them that valuing ourselves, loving who we are and who we can become through right thinking and right action, is what leads to success in all areas of Life.

Let us all bear in mind the timeless words of Confucius (551-497 BC), a Chinese sage of times past:

“The demands that a gentleman makes are upon himself; those that a small man makes are upon others.”

 

 

 

With blessings,


Holly x

 

IF … In The Strongest Terms

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IF … In The Strongest Terms

If a man is not prepared to recognise the massive contributions made by his spouse to their combined family, and is not prepared to walk to the ends of the earth to do what is necessary to support her, then that man is not worth his salt and he does not deserve the gem that he has chosen.

If a mother is not prepared to lift a bus for her child, to teach, guide, lead by example, to do whatever is necessary to ‘be there’, to defend, support, and to love, no matter their age, then she is not worth her status as Parent.

If a father is not prepared to go out of his comfort zone to learn to parent himself, in order to parent his child, and to lead by example so that his son or his daughter know firsthand how to begin to care for and fend for themselves, then he does not deserve to be a Father.

If a person is not prepared to put in the hard yards to learn to love him- or herself, is not prepared to stand in front of a mirror and do whatever is necessary to befriend and iron out the chinks in their own armour, then he or she does not have a right to stand before others and preach.

If a human being is not prepared to do whatever it takes to become more human, to allow Life to mould him (or her), to let everything break open in order to be rebuilt, yet stands in judgement over others and calls out their faults, that human is sick and needs to doctor himself.

If we stand in judgement over others, we invite wrath upon ourselves.

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~ Holly Maxwell Boydell

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I Wish Love Was Taught In Schools

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A hug from Nature, in the Author’s garden.


I wish love was taught in schools, to girls and to boys, so that people could grow up knowing what love really looks like.

Words alone are shallow, and just being able to read and write does not help us when we’re hurting deep inside, or when we need to find strength within to imagine ourselves out of situations, in order to move them along. It is action and our tiny, seemingly unimportant actions that show whether we really mean it when we say “I love you”. When we say “I love you” and then behave in ways that show the opposite or, perhaps worse, a very confused message, we hurt those who trust us and take us at our word.

Men, a little free love message for you here, while we’re at it: Know that you hold an immense golden key to the happiness of your life and your own family home, especially if you are married and in charge. It starts with your turning the key in the right direction, in your own heart, and then applying all the love you give to yourself to those whose lives you wish to share. You are the one who can dictate whether the entire family sinks or sails. If you are lucky enough to have a woman in your life, nurture her, cherish her, appreciate her, be honest with her, fight for her, defend her if needed … after all, you asked her to share your life! Would you want to carry the physical strain that her body has to endure, even a menstrual period every month? Would you give birth and not scream the ward down, and then be available to your children whenever they needed you, no matter how hard they kicked you in the stomach and then mashed your heart as they tried later to find their wings? I doubt it. So show a little respect and give a little thought to what women are living with and having to work so hard to rise up above. A woman’s life is not easy, and most women I know deserve respect … at least for being a woman.

Women, a little free love message for you here too: Know that you are worth loving and that you do not have to behave like boys to get attention, nor do you have to grovel for love. You are a child of the universe, and your place on this earth is vital too. Don’t play second fiddle to monsters, and don’t try to take their place. Women have all the intuition and instinct that we were born with, in order to compliment other energy in the world. Use your kindness wisely and apply it to your self first. Don’t hurt your sisters and your girlfriends … they are just as sensitive as you are. Don’t show off and bitch about each other because, while you’re doing that, three fingers are pointing back at you.

Love is written about in so many places and it is one of the simplest things to understand … a baby gets it, a toddler expects it, a young child has it – until we rip it away with judgement and falsity. Love is a golden thread that holds relationships together. It is not shown in words. It is shown in love itself.

Love yourself, and treat others as you would have them treat you. That just about takes care of the whole circle of the golden rule of Life.

Holly x

Children Learn what they Live

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Words by Dorothy Law Nolte PhD.
Image and layout by Holly Maxwell Boydell.
Prepared and posted onto The White Space’s page in January 2015 at http://www.facebook.com/thewhitespace.

 

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Added note:

 

The adults running the world right now, are the children of yesterday.
The children of today are the adults of tomorrow.
They will run our world – the way we taught them.
What we learnt and absorbed as children, is being played out in our lives right now.
It behoves us all to learn to see the world as children, relearn the lessons, and think before we act. In business, in all professions, in parenting, in all spheres of life.
We live what we learnt. We can change.

 

~ Holly Maxwell Boydell

 

 

 

 

 

[Additional words and Tag added Wednesday 17 February 2016]

 

When We Look Into The Eyes Of Children

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I wonder what you see when you look at this photograph of two children? We all see things according to our own lives and experiences, but sometimes the messages are universal.

I know what I see and I know what I feel, when I look at this photograph. I know one of these children very well and their combined story is a powerfully moving one, when looking from the outside in, or the inside out. Each of these two children went on to create lives and families of their own, succeeding in various ways despite great hurdles, many obstacles to their security, their sense of self, and a lack of consistent parental direction while they were being raised.

When I stand back and view this photograph, as an Observer, I see two vulnerable beings, trusting the world to offer fun and everything else that they need, supporting each other, believing in the positive nature of Life. Each of these children, indeed every child, was and is worthy of love and care, nurturing and wellbeing. I know that these two children’s experience was not always so, and I know the depths to which each of them had to dig within themselves, in order to survive and to go on to do well.

As I look at this picture, I recall a few words I wrote recently, elsewhere in my blog, where I asked:

“What do you think children would say, if we asked them what sort of world (Earth) they would like to inherit? Remember, ours is borrowed from them.” *

I find myself asking this question again.

We hold their world in trust, until children can take up the mantle themselves, and as we do so we carry the full responsibility, for the sake of all the children of the world. This responsibility is something I care about and feel very deeply.

I wonder whether, when you look at this photograph of two trusting, outwardly optimistic, vulnerable beings, you see and feel any of this too?

In trust and love,

Holly x

 

* Quote from blog post: “Mid Winter Brightness” – 6 February 2015
at https://thehollytreetales.wordpress.com/2015/02/06/mid-winter-brightness